| Location | Surrey |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Genetic Condition |
| Date of Birth | 08/08/1998 |
| Date of Death | 08/08/1998 |
| Visitors | 3,192 since 04/02/2009 |
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Ciara's Story, stillborn at 40 weeks & 3 days.
My husband and I met in 1984, introduced by a mutual friend. We started seeing each other
in '85 and we found we had a lot in common. After 7 years, we decided to get married, as we both
felt ready to start a family. Six months later, we decided to try for a family and, much to our
amazement, we were successful on our first attempt.We were over the moon and when I visited my GP he
out a real dampner on our news by saying "I wouldn't tell too many people yet, as it's early days -
1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage". I came away feeling very upset, and couldn't believe how
blunt he'd been. However, he was proven right, and in my 11th week, I miscarried our baby. At my 6
week check up the Dr. told me there was nothing wrong genetically, and that we were just unlucky. We
were both devastated and it took us a year to feel ready to try again. I consoled myself with the
statistics, and convinced myself that everything woud be alright next time. We tried again and I got
pregnant, but once again, I lost our second baby at 8 weeks. Although physically it wasn't as bad as
the first, mentally it was worse. I asked myself all the questions, why me? why again? Once again we
were told we were unlucky, just keep trying.For the next 2 years we tried and nothing happened. The
more you want something, the less chance it will happen.
Finally after 2 years I fell pregnant! I had a fantastic pregnancy and never felt better -
no morning sickness or any problems. I was monitored at the hospital more than normal, because of
having had 2 miscarriages, and once I got past 8 weeks, then 11 weeks, then 28 weeks, I felt I was
home and dry. Even if our baby was born early, it could survive - they can do amazing things these
days. The last 2 weeks dragged as it does for all expectant mothers and we couldn't wait to meet our
baby.
Our baby was due on 2nd of August and I was seen at the hospital when I was 3 days
overdue, for a check up with the consultant. At the check up they said my blood pressure was up, but
only marginally - nothing to worry about.To be on the safe side, they asked me to come in again the
following day, and it was back to normal.Whilst there the mid-wife did a heart trace on my baby and
she commented on what a strong heart beat my baby had - all very re-assuring.
The following day, I was pottering around at home when I realised that Ciara had been very quiet. I
didn't think much of it at first, as I'd read that babies sometimes quieten down before the birth,
but, as the day wore on, I began to worry when I didn't get kicked as I usually did. By the time
Brian got in from work I was really anxious and I said I wanted to go to the hospital to re-assure
myself that everything was alright. Something just didn't feel right! The mid-wife tried to hear a
heartbeat, but she struggled, and when they wheeled in a portable scanner, I realised our worst
nightmare was about to come true. There was nothing they could say to make things better - Ciara had
died inside me.
The next few hours were a blur, as we had to go home to get my bags and we had to tell our
families that our baby was gone. We then had to endure a 16 hour induced labour, where Ciara got
stuck and they had to drag her out using forceps which cut deep scars into her little cheeks. Our
beautiful much wanted daughter was dead. The staff were wonderful and treated us, and our baby with
great sensitivity, but I cannot describe how we felt. Even now writing this 11 years later still
makes me cry. Thank God we had each other and our families for support. We had to wait for 10 days
before we could have Ciara cremated, as they wanted to do a post mortem to try and find out why she
died. The results were inconclusive, and they said she was completely normal and she weighed a good
8lbs. They put it down to cot death, but in the womb - she simply stopped breathing! We took her
ashes home to Ireland to our family summer home, where we planted a tree to her memory, so she would
always be a part of our family.
I wanted to start this memorial as a tribute to her, and although it's been nearly 11
years, we have never forgotten her and still miss her and who she might have been. Gone but never
forgotten our precious little girl.
Love you always xx
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MAY THIS CANDLE GLOW UNTIL THE DAWNS NEW LIGHT
FOR EACH AND EVERY ANGEL THE ETERNAL CANDLE SHINES SO BRIGHT
THE FLICKERING FLAME LIGHTS UP FOR EACH ANGEL ABOVE
BECAUSE THIS CANDLE HAS BEEN LEFT WITH ALL MY LOVE
THE CANDLE IS TO LET YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE LOVED MORE THAN WORDS CAN SAY
I HOPE THAT YOU CAN SEE THE FLAME THAT BURNS
RIGHT THOUGH THE NIGHT UNTIL ITS A BRAND NEW DAY
I HOPE THAT I CAN SEE YOU IN MY DREAMS WHILE I SLEEP TONIGHT
THIS ETERNAL CANDLE WILL FOREVER SHOW OF SUCH A WONDERFUL RAY OF LIGHT........
copyright© Rosalind Roberts 19/11/09
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18TH NOVEMBER 2009
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Up to the moon and the stars..
Way past Jupiter..
And way past Mars
You are missed by so many..
And loved so very much
If you can beautiful Angel..
Please stay in touch
We all love you precious Angel..
So just you remember this..
I will blow kisses up to heaven..
For our Angel that we miss
With love always xXx
copyright ~ Jackie Thomas 18/10/09
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Consolation by Graham Sherman
Nobody asked how much she weighed
or the colour of her eyes.
Nobody asked who she looked like
or if we ever heard her cry.
Nobody wanted to talk about her;
No one knew what to say.
They want to pretend she didn’t exist,
They think that’s the easiest way.
The funny thing is, that isn’t true.
And you may disagree.
But . . .
I don’t mind being asked about her,
I love to talk about our Baby.
Just a few words of what to say
if the need should arise again:
“What can I do to comfort you?”
“I’m here if you need a Friend.”
“Is now a good time to come for a visit?”
“Would you like to get out for a while?”
“I’m so sorry about your precious Baby.”
“I know you miss your child.”
And don’t forget as time goes on
to mention her with a little word.
There’s a certain kind of comfort for us
Just to know that she is remembered.
Dreams - by Ella Sherazee's Dad
Tread carefully for you tread on our dreams
Dream’s of any parent, the first steps
The first words, the first kiss
All these things we will desperately miss
Splashing in the sea and playing in the sand
Walking with your Sisters hand in hand
Your footsteps growing year by year
Every single one we will miss and shed a tear
The dream of walking you up this very aisle
To see you on that day with a radiant smile
But even though you had a great strong heart
In my arms from this world you did part
You now sit with God in heaven,
Playing with all the other children
One of the best Angels you will surely be
Your innocence and beauty all the others will see
Fear not sweet Ciara,
We will hold your hand every step of the way
Our parental duties do not end this day
Our Daughter and Sister you will always be
And one day we will be together again, you will see
Nite nite angel xxx
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All my love, sleep tight xoxox
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13TH NOVEMBER 2009
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~~~I Believe In Angels~~~
I believe in angels
The angels heaven sends
I am surrounded by angels
And I call them my friends
I believe in angels
Although I never did before
But now that I have found them
I'll believe forever more
My angels lift me up
When I am feeling down
They help to make me happy
when ever their around
I can always call on them
At any time of day
The angels I call friends
Who chase my blues away
Copyright© Ingrid Aspey 2/9/09
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For My Family
I'm an Angel Here in Heaven
The Lords here by by side
He wants me to let you know
He's sorry he made you cry
He has a plan for me up here
And a plan for you here too
Someday we'll be together again
And This we know is true xx
xxxxLove to you sweet Ciara & Family xxxx
The tide recides but leaves behind
bright seashells on the sand.
The sun goes down, but gentle
warmth still lingers on the land.
The music stops, and yet it echoes
on in sweet refrains.....
For every joy that passes,
something beautiful remains.
(Author Unknown)
~~ Sleep Softly Little Angel ~~
Your eyes now see the beauty
Of the paradise above
Your soul is now surrounded
By Gods unconditional love
So be happy little angel
With all your angel friends
It's beautiful in heaven
And on Gods love you can depend
Sleep softly little angel
You'll never more know pain
because in heaven little angel
You'll never be hurt again
Copyright© Ingrid Aspey 29/8/09
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